Today I got my first feedback for this blog ... and apparently, it sucks.
I think a lot of people have a friend who is a total downer and makes you feel bad about yourself ... the question is, why do we continue to let these people bring us down? With friends like that, who needs enemies?
Dropping a friend, however, doesn't need to be a big drawn-out, drama-laden affair.
One of the major steps in removing this toxic relationship from your life is to distance yourself from the offending party. Make yourself unavailable. Find other things to do, and maybe take up a new activity, so that not only are you filling your time, you have now made yourself open to starting new friendships with people you might not have met before.
I have met a lot of people through hockey, including some of my very best girlfriends -- so the rink isn't a bad place to meet some new friends either.
Maybe one of your acquaintances has some friends you might be interested in meeting, or maybe some of your guy pals have a cool female cousin or friend you might like?
The name of the game is networking and finding a way to replace to void of the friend you're trying to ditch, so that you're not feeling a huge loss without her.
When push comes to shove, nobody deserves to be made to feel like they are unimportant or don't matter, so if you have a so-called friend who puts you down, make the positive step and move away from that person. Sometimes it'll be sad to say goodbye, especially if it's a friend you have known for a long time or have had a lot of memories with ... but you'll still have those happy memories of the good times, even once you've moved on from your friendship.
Chances are you don't actually suck, and your 'friend' who is knocking you down is either jealous or trying to make herself feel better by putting you down. This person isn't deserving of your time and you need to be proactive and make the positive change in your life. You'll be a lot happier down the road!
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